Break ups

ok, I won't lie to you, I loved this guy. I may call him all sorts of names here but I really did (and do) love him. But a girl can only take so much and this is it I am out of here.

I have had some breakups before (who hasn't?) but this is a first for me. Reminds me of Carrie and her post it break up in sex and the city.

He simply stopped coming to see me and I got tired of calling him so I stopped. This after he made it clear that I was not merely a girlfriend but a wife. This after he introduced me to everybody in his life. This after I asked him point blank if his silence meant that he wanted to break up with me and he said no. This after I had stopped calling him and he shows up at my house with his brother and behaves like nothing is wrong. Please, if you dont mean something, dont say it at all.

I dont understand, you don't want to break up with me but at the same time, you dont want to be with me? Are you a child who after getting what he wants doesn't want it anymore? So I have taken a page out of his book, I am quite. I even deleted his phone number from my phone although I know it by heart but at least if I have to enter it from my head, by the time I get to the third digit, I would have come to my sense.

How do you deal with break ups? anybody.....?