I suppose the belief that women prefer men with money has its genuine roots but really, I wish men would stop painting all us women with the same dirty paintbrush. Honestly, it really annoys me when a man thinks that he can impress or buy me with money.
Sure money is good. It makes life easier and I would be a fool to turn down a man only on the basis that he has money. But I want something extra. You have to impress me with your brains, your dreams, the way you look at me like I am the most beautiful woman that you have ever seen. I want to miss someone's smile and not his credit card.
In my opinion, its not women but our male colleagues who have complicated brains. They think (or have been led to believe that) to impress a woman you need a big car, a big house, a big bank account, a big penis (i dont think women mind this particular one!) and all that. They have such pride that losing a job can literally kill them. So if a woman comes to be with you because of your money and possessions and then you lose it all, what then? if that was the foundation for the relationship, what happens when its all gone? And dont blame the woman if she leaves coz, you yourself set that benchmark to say she should be with you because you are well endowed moneywise.
Thats why I firmly believe you need something extra that will sustain you through the hard times and beyond. Let me speak for myself, that is what i want in my life, that extra something.
I recently met a man who is trying to impress me by buying me expensive gifts, offering to pay my bills, buying me airtime and offering to send me money. All this before we have even had a proper conversation. All I know about the guy is where he works and his name, thats all. Maybe some people would be impressed by this but to me this is a red flag. It makes me wonder what he is trying to compensate for and what it is exactly that he has seen in me to assume that I will be glad to receive gifts from a virtual stranger.
What do women want? Thats the question that has baffled men all this time. Well its simple really. I for one want a friend above all else. I want a man who is intelligent, has big dreams like I do, a man with a life and wont demand 100% of my time, just a normal regular guy. If he can afford to spoil me, well and good, but that should not be the basis for the relationship. I dont want someone to treat me like a trophy or some kind of prize that needs constant polishing. Some women might appreciate that but I find it insulting.
So to my admirer, a bit of advice for next time you meet a lady that you like. I actually thought that you were cute when I first saw you. If you had just approached me like a normal human being and given me the chance to know you, I probably would have liked you. But this trying to buy me, makes me think very badly of you. If you want to buy me something, buy me flowers, buy me dinner (dont give me money to buy dinner!), dont buy me big things before I even know your name!
