Time to wake up and smell the coffee?

There comes a time in every woman's life (and I am sure some men too) that you realise that you are not as young as you used to be. Or is that just me? Well, I hope there are a lot of people in my shoes or else I am just one sad person. You realise that once all that mattered to you was having fun, having the latest shoes or bags or cars and the sight of babies was not something that you found particularly sweet but you felt sorry for the hustled mother with no time for herself.

But once you are past a certain age with the man who you thought  would come and take your breath away and you both live happily ever after with is nowhere in sight, you have to think about these things. Like it or not, there is some sadness behind every congratulations that you give when yet another one of your friends gets married or has a baby. There is the question at the back of your mind wondering whether it will ever happen for you. Its just the way it is.

And the worst thing is that after sometime, you realise that the attention that you used to get from the opposite sex is slowly reducing. It may still be there except that you get hit on more by married men than single men. Why? Because a lot of the men in your pond are married, leaving only a few good ones, a lot of weirdos and those who think that just because you have reached a certain age, you must be desperate and will settle for just anyone or anything.

Yeah, they say money isnt everything, that looks are fickle and that the love of a good hard working man is all that a woman needs. Butterflies in the stomach and being insanely in love with someone are for teenagers right? Problem is I want all that. I am going to spend the rest of my life with this person, it better be with someone I am crazy about not someone I will get tired of after a week! Is that asking for too much?

This growing up business is hard!!!! I look back now and wonder why I was in such a hurry to get here.

Last time I wrote about the four guys who had showed interest in me, the ready for marriage guy who was too short, the good friend who has no steady employment, the employed guy who is not that much to look and Mr. Perfect who is still married to another woman!

I know I am still young but there are things that I want to do and kids are a definite must have in my life. Should I then just choose one of the guys above and be done with it? Should I settle down now while I still have choices and not wait for a better man who may or may not come along? Is being married so important that I can just be with anyone and hope that the love will grow? Suppose I choose one of the guys now and then someone better comes along once I am married? suppose i say, hey am only 28, there is still time, someone will surely come along and then they dont? Should I ignore the fact that someone is a whole foot shorter than me just because he has a good job and is seemingly a good guy ready to commit? Should I hope that my good friend with the crazy dreams will one day find work or his dreams come true? Should I be with someone I am not even slightly attracted to? Should I be with the perfect man and hope against hope that he really will divorce his wife and be with me? What kind of choices are these?

But sooner or later, a girl has to decide. If I didnt care I wouldnt bother but I do care. I have everything else in my life, and now I want this as well. I guess the message I am getting from today's musings is that I cant keep being undecided forever. I doubt that there will come come a man who meets all the qualities that I want (I hope he does but am trying to be realistic here). I need to make up my mind and soon and whatever decision I make, I will have to stick with it and make the best of it.